I support #SB329. In recent years there have been important game changers causing the need for legislative change to protect the rights of many in the adoption community. They are social media and the DNA testing sites (Ancestry.com, FtDNA). In the past there were arguments based on feeling relating to keeping records sealed, but those proved to be myths by the longitudinal data. In fact these bills look to be naturally lowering abortion rates as the abortion rates typically decline in states that restore access and are lowest in the states that never closed.
Current options for adoptees in Texas
1. Petition the court of adoption for the judge to release the birth certificate: As adult adoptees, many of us from the baby scoop era, are taught to feel ashamed of wanting this genealogical information. Even well meaning people say to us, “Why would you do this to your adopted family? They are your real family, the ones who raised you.” Am I not permitted to the curiosity I feel as most people do, when it comes to my ancestry? Learning my biological genealogy cannot begin to replace the memories of my childhood and the parenting of my adoptive family. No adult adoptee thinks it could. But it does not erase my innate curiosity and longing for my cultural identity. To go before a judge only risks the same judgement, the same accusing questions. but in a very public manner. For many adoptees this can be, and often is a very humiliating experience. It is again to be told, “You have no right to know your family, to know your heritage, not even as an adult citizen, as the rest of us do.” I am an adoptee, advocating for this legislation and I have not had the emotional fortitude to go before a judge and risk another rejection. The idea of this process makes me feel vulnerable and humiliated. Often times the judge denies access.
2. Social Media: If I do not have the means, the fortitude, or was denied my original birth certificate by the judge I can turn to social media. Sites like Facebook and Twitter have already played a vital role in uniting birth families. Adoptees are using the most efficient tools available to them, and right now that is social media. People ask, “what’s the harm in this. Why worry if it is working?” Reunions are stressful. A public reunion scenario adds another level of stress. I believe the humane way to initiate reunion is for a person to obtain their OBC, directly. Then the adoptee can reach out privately to the biological parents. When you “advertise” on social media, you risk “outing” the birth parent before they have a chance to prepare. In fact, the adoptee has inadvertently told thousands of people about a very private event, filled with a myriad of emotions for the birth mother/birth father. Or, the adoptee contacts a half-sibling or a cousin, and the birth mother is outed this way. Most birth parents actually do want to be found. Research supports this, however, most do not want to be found in a public forum; very jarring and not at all private. I think this is a real injustice. By keeping birth records sealed, it forces adoptees to go about searching in a very public way. If access to OBC’s is granted, it reverts back to a private matter between adult family members, as it should be.
3. DNA Testing Sites: Again, a very useful tool with many of the pitfalls listed above. It is rare for an adoptee to get a direct match to a birth parent when entering DNA. It is usually a second cousin or maybe a half sibling. The adoptee then “climbs the family tree” until they reach someone who is willing to do a little digging.This digging involves asking various family members if they know anything about a baby being relinquished. The birth mother is then outed, possibly before she has had time to emotionally prepare or tell those closest to her. With the awareness of the law changing, the birth parent has a chance to think things through, and make thoughtful decisions about how to handle contact, and at the very least tell those closest to them.
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Adopted people are finding their families. But the current system is failing to keep these matters private. Ironically, by removing government involvement by in dealing records, states can protect the rights of citizens on both sides of the equation. That is why the past element of opposition is missing. This is why so many legislators are signing on and we rapidly nearing the tipping point. Because, in the past an adult adopted person had little chance of finding biological family without the birth certificate. Now, the OBC has become almost irrelevant. Except it is not; Not to those whose OBC’s are denied them. It is a constant reminder that they are a shameful secret, not granted the same rights to their first medical and genealogical document as everyone else; an event for which they were present. OBC Access legislation greatly reduces this risk of unwanted publicity and provides personal validity for thousands of Texas citizens.
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